This movie was brilliant in more ways than one. For those who know me, you know I love movies. I love everything about them, the passion, the adventure, the characters, it’s a powerful thing for me to experience. I feel the same about books, but that’s a blog for another time. The Fault in Our Stars has adventure, love, and a beautiful lesson of what it means to be a victim. This movie (and novel, but I am going to refer to the movie) is a love story, but not a normal one. When cancer plays a part in a love story it is everything but normal. Cancer itself doesn’t surprise us these days anymore. It’s a common illness that destroys lives. I have had one too many friends and family members who have struggled with cancer. Some that are struggling, some that have struggled and won, and some that have lost the fight. However, losing the fight to cancer does not mean it has won.
It’s a metaphor, see: You put the killing thing right between your teeth, but you don’t give it the power to do its killing.The Fault in Our Stars
The beauty of this movie and the two star-crossed lovers was not so much the love aspect of it, but the beauty of the struggle they endured together. We often like to play the victim in situations. We all want to feel sorry for ourselves and have other people join in. Hazel and Gus had terminal cancer and sure there were moments of weakness and desperation, but what we can learn from them is that they didn’t play the victim. They rose much higher than that. They may have lost the fight to cancer, but cancer did not win. They won because of the lives they lived. Their love, passion, and confidence they possessed is something I want in every part of my life.
When life gives you lemons, you don’t make lemonade. You use the seeds to plant a whole orchard.Anthon St. Maarten
When times are rough, the last thing we need to do is play the victim. God did not die on the cross for us to be the victims in our lives. He made us for so much more than that. He made us to endure the hardship, to turn away from being the victim, and to live every moment we have in love. Playing the victim will only tear us apart, but sure, we will all succumb to the weakness, we’re human after all, but that is just a reminder that we are weak and the only way to gain any strength is to let go of being the victim and embrace the life He has blessed us with. He gives and He takes away, but man, is He good. All the time.
Love. Be loved. Know love.